What I'm noticing, both in the coaching room and in my personal conversations, is how often the language of ADHD and Neurodivergence is being brought up. I've noticed many people leading with "I have ADHD" or "Bear with me, this is my ADHD brain". And I notice something else, too. When I'm coaching clients who identify as ADHD or Neurodivergent, I often see familiar patterns in their nervous systems—patterns that are very similar to what I see in my clients who come to me for post-traumatic growth or grief work.

“You don’t need more discipline. You need conditions that support your nervous system.” This year, I’m beginning with a different question to guide me. What is my nervous system capacity, and how do I cultivate it so I can move toward what matters most to me?

Over the past two decades of coaching, I’ve noticed some significant shifts in the Coaching world. Clients are no longer just bringing goals and dreams. They’re bringing nervous systems shaped by chronic stress, burnout, grief, loneliness, and a deep ache for safety and connection in a world that feels uncertain, emotionally charged and polarized. What if people are showing up not for achievement first, but to feel steady enough to begin again or keep going?

What If Capacity Is the New Life Skill? “Not everything that matters can be carried all at once.”